Have you thought of Mediation?

For some, divorce mediation is still a new idea. However it is increasingly getting more attention and it is widely accepted. Mediation is most effective when you and your spouse sit down in the same room with a neutral mediator. With the mediator's help, you work through all the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can agree and get through your divorce. No matter what style your mediator uses, you can be assured that mediation is flexible and confidential. It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflicts between you, in a way that will eventually help you to work together as parents throughout as well as after your divorce.

The mediator will remain neutral between both parties which means the mediator will not advise either party nor will they act as a lawyer representing either party.

The mediator will point out in open session to both spouses things that they should both be aware of about what they are trying to accomplish. This free exchange of information tends to free up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence. Because both spouses are working with the same information and point of view, it usually takes much less time to negotiate and get a resolution that is agreeable to both spouses.

Mediation is voluntary and should continue until you have reached an agreement or you or your spouse wishes to withdraw.

Does mediation really work? Yes it does. Years of research show that mediating couples are more likely to be content with the process and the results. It is likely to take less time, less money, and it is also less likely you will wind up back in court later to fight about something.

The main advantage of mediation is that you and your spouse stay in control of your own divorce. This little fact can make a world of difference in how you will recover from your divorce and move on with your life.